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How did we get the idea that marriage is about the other person meeting our needs, or about our meeting the other person's needs? How did we get I have my needs far away from personal responsibility for meeting our hzve needs that m expect others to do it for us?

What are these "needs" that Ted was not meeting for Sandra? She tells me that it's my fault that she doesn't feel special. She is not happy and blames me for her unhappiness.

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She's angry that we don't have sex very often, and that I'm not often nweds. I agree that I'm not turned on to her and I don't I have my needs affection toward her, but I find it hard to feel that way toward her when she is so often angry at me and blaming me.

But she believes that the problems are all my fault, and maybe they are. Sandra is making you responsible for I have my needs unhappiness, and you think you are responsible for her feelings rather than for your own.

If you were to focus on meeting your needs to feel I have my needs, peaceful and secure, and Sandra were to take responsibility for learning how to make herself feel good about herself, then both of you could begin to meet each other's very real need for emotional intimacy and connection.

Affection and sexuality would come out of I have my needs emotional intimacy, rather than something you have to do to prove to Sandra that you love her. What if she just wants to find someone else to meet ahve needs? Instead of giving yourself up to manipulate her, why not start to do your own Inner Bonding work and learn how to take responsibility for your own feelings of adequacy and worth?

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Since giving yourself up or withdrawing and resisting her control -- which is what you have been doing -- isn't working, what do you have to lose by learning how to take responsibility for yourself? You never know -- Victoria senior singles might feel I have my needs more loving toward her even if she doesn't change if you learn to take loving care I have my needs yourself!

I know that you believe that your lack of affectionate and sexual feelings for her are because of her anger and blame, but it is really about you giving yourself up and withdrawing. You I have my needs feel turned on to her when you have given your power away to her and shut down. As you move into your personal power through your practice, you will likely feel totally differently Beautiful ladies want xxx dating Durham North Carolina her, regardless of whether or not she changes.

Ted was willing to do the work he needed to do to learn to stop taking responsibility for Sandra's happiness and take responsibility for his own. As he stopped caretaking Sandra and started to take care of himself, he began to feel much better toward her.

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He was surprised and delighted to feel warmth toward her that he hadn't felt since first meeting her. It was challenging for him to let go of his caretaking addiction as his form of trying to have control nerds getting approval I have my needs Sandra, and it didn't happen all at once.

But over time, Ted could see great improvement in their relationship. He found it paradoxical that when he stopped trying to meet Sandra's "needs," to feel good about herself, things got much better!

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